Friendship means different things to different people. To some it is all about those that are close to them and to others it is about those they hang out with or spend a lot of time together but I would like to define friendship as friends in a ship. In a more personal term, the number of friends you have among the people around you. We are connected to a whole lot of people, some family, some colleagues and some schoolmates, yet friends are those people we are connected to and those we are not connected to that we bring closer to ourselves because they came closer or they have also brought us closer to themselves. Once we are approached in a friendly way, courtesy demands we respond likewise, and before you know, it could give birth to a new relationship. But that I am friendly does not make me your friend, I’m just a friend who don’t really want to know much about you but just needed to be close to you.
If success can be an enemy to itself, then some people you call friends are not truly your friends. So who really is a friend and who is not? Till tomorrow, I still believe you have to choose your friends because friendship is not by force but by choice. However, that am not your friend does not make me your enemy I’m either a friend that you have not yet met or a friend that won’t come close. So it is not everyone close to you or those that hangout or spend time with you that are your friends. Therefore it is not everyone you call friends that are your friends and not everyone in your ship are you friend. So the big question is among all the people around you, how many of them are you friends?
How many enemies do you have in your ship? To some, people around them who actually wants to bring them down are more than those who actually wants to see them progressing. We are in a situation whereby anybody can be a friend and anybody can also be an enemy. But since we can’t tell who is who by looking at faces because it is not written on our foreheads, we then have to be cautious of people we choose to become part of our lives.
That I eat, drink and even walk with you does not mean much or that I don’t eat, drink or walk with you means less. It is my intentions towards you that make me your friend and your intentions toward me that make you my friend. But why do people want to be close? Are they after what we have? Or are they really interested in our lives? The problem is, some people initially came with good intentions and it was a good idea you accepted their friends request but along the way, their intentions latter changed and was fighting your purpose. It is at such moment that you unfriend them else they will bring you down. But most frightening are people who show up with the favour we need and those who shows up with a gift and a word of appreciation. They become your friend indeed. So at this point, you should be able to know those for and against you. Keep away from those that needs to and continue with those that are meant to be. Yet the truth is, you don’t actually know how many people around you are friends because you will only discover some were not, when they introduce their end game. The point is you can’t do without friends, you can’t stop being friendly but you can pray that no man, friend or foe should be able to bring you down.