There is this story about a man driving home from work, who queued up in traffic and another car with few guys and more ladies queued beside him. He turned to have a glance and the ladies inside began to tease him, he smiled and raised his left hand, showing off his marriage ring “I’m married girls” he said. And they replied “hope happily” and immediately both zoom off to their different ways. Those ladies were gone but all through the night he kept asking himself one question he couldn’t answer. “Am I happily married”?
A lot of people have married for 2 years, some 7 years, some 15 years and few 30 years, yet it’s not how long your marriage has lasted or how many marriage anniversaries you have celebrated that makes your marriage successful, so don’t brag about it, although I have to give you kudos for that but success in marriage is tie to how long your happiness lasted. To some it comes and goes, to others it has come and gone and to few it came and stayed. However, I can tell you how long you have been married if I know exactly when you two got married but honestly I can’t tell you the last time you were happy about your marriage, I can’t tell, if you are still happy you got married to each other or you wished it was another person you would have married. Neither can I tell if you are happy that he or she is the father or the mother of your child or if you wished she was more beautiful and educated or he was a little bit taller and richer.
There are many couples, who once were happily married but today are just married and if it may interest you to know what happened to “happily” the husband and the wife are the right people to let you know. Nowadays, I see the way some couples behave and I keep asking myself if what I saw was really part of the vow they made but the truth is, you make your marriage what you want it to be, a laughing stock or a model, it’s a choice. So to those of us, not yet married, who just want to get married and settle down with the love of our life, you will not only choose the man or woman that you will marry, the wedding dress or ring to wear, you will have to choose the kind of marriage you want to have, to be happily married for 2 days, 2 years, 5 years or for the rest of your life. You may not be able to make that decision before marriage because all you want to do is to get married but at least think about it and make sure you have no doubt about you having the kind of marriage you want. But one second after marriage, the next thing on your mind, should not be how to enjoy honeymoon but how to make every day of you marriage honey moon because to some couples honey moon was when they were ever happy they got married and if it took you months to prepare for the kind of wedding you had that was for a day, then it’s going to take you every day after your marriage to have a successful marriage life. But note it is not only the wife that makes marriage work; husbands have a part to play if their marriage must work. So marriage is not an easy choice to make but a big choice before you and once in a life time choice. So choose wisely so that you won’t be tempted to choose the second time